I think we have a problem in the world, people. No shock value there, right? What route am I going with this you may wonder?
Pretty much all of it besides politics....
strap yourselves in, this is a long post.
I am so happy that Jackson is loving school. Although he is absolutely exhausted, I am not surprised. Poor guy had a melt down on the soccer field last night at his second ever practice.
He's a beached kid right now. Plus, I've started the "School year rules" which means lots of things:
1. no TV or video games before school
2. empty backpack immediately upon returning home from school
3. empty lunch pail/bag/box/tin/whatever immediately into recycling/trash upon returning home from school
4. Place your shoes in your designated bin in the coat closet in our square kitchen.
5. Make your bed in the morning as difficult as it may be on the top bunk of a bunk bed
6. Video games are allowed but for a max time of 20min in which you can use the time in increments.
7. Homework will always be required to be completed upon arriving home from school
8. After backpack is put away, lunch box in sink, shoes in bin, and homework out, wash your hands.
9. In bed by 7:50 with a range of minutes to read books or play around with his Lego's or whatever he wants besides Video Games
10. 8:15 lights out, music on, closet door open, hall light on, closet light on, shades drawn, no talking
It's a tough life, isn't it? Rules. We all have em.
They suck at times.
But some of us do tend to follow the majority of rules we have.
We don't always follow them but that is something that is our choice.
Rules work well with privileges too.
You are offered more independence based on your behavior.
So you would think.
Jackson is in first grade now.
His first full day was this past Wednesday.
Each student in the class has been asked to bring a bottle of water with them to school every day.
But only a bottle of water that is good for the environment because his school last year went green. The bottle of refreshing H.2.O must have a pull top to avoid any spills that will occur when/if a child knocks it off his/her desk.
It must not be an aluminum type thermos because the noise is rather deafening according to his teacher. The purpose for the daily dose of H2o Desktop? To keep the students hydrated.
And yes people, the school does have a wide variety of drinking fountains available within their halls.
I know I sound cranky, but that's because, well, ONE, I am, and, TWO, I can recall when I was in my first year of college. Do you understand how excited I was when we were told by our college professors that we were "allowed" to bring a beverage to class with us?
All those years of K-8, grades 9-12 paid off.
I earned that right.
It was a privilege.
Now if you ask me, the generation that my children belong to are being "trained" for instant gratification. They don't have to raise their hand, wait for the teacher to call on them, be approved or denied to take the hall pass in order to sip from the school public bubbly.
The reason for the bottle at hand is to minimize disruption in regards to students needing to use the water fountain. Plus as Jackson's teacher emphasizes, the importance in keeping her students hydrated (in an air conditioned school mind you).
Pisses me off.
Speaking of pee-pee, wouldn't you think that by having a bottle of water on their desk, daily (and this is for the entire school Grades 1 thru 5) that they're more likely to have to pee?
Do they get to have a urinal or stall next to their desk too, to minimize potty breaks?
I just don't get it.
It annoys me just as much as it does when I am told what I can and cannot pack for my child due to peanut allergies. And please before you go attacking me about the severity of allergies to food, as you include how heartless I sound because YOUR.CHILD.COULD.DIE.IF.HE.ATE.A.TREE.NUT, I'm not being heartless to your children. I understand how difficult it is if your child has an allergy. It's frustrating for everyone.
Only I don't ever recall my mom being told what she could and couldn't pack me. The ones that had allergies (granted it wasn't a "popular issue" back then) were taught responsibility quickly. You were taught to follow the rules of "whatever you do, do not take food from your friends at school because there could be peanuts in it." And guess what? The kids followed directions.
They didn't have mom and dad walking them thru life, providing them with health insurance until they are 26 (recent "law" that was passed In Illinois) because they are too lazy to even try to be successful in life. Naturally because everything has either been instant gratification (like that damn water bottle) or managed for them (like food in lunch pails).
The more we hold their hand thru life with things that they need to learn, the more we're going to hurt them when they are at the age of adulthood, where they should be able to at least try to provide for their family.
Naturally there are many people with disabilities, mental illnesses, chronic illnesses that deserve to have this type of assistance. That deserve to have less stress in their lives, as do their parents. I'm talking about the kids that just graduated from a four year college that mom and dad paid for with their 529plan. (Yes I have one, but you bet your ass my boys are going to have to work hard -not to mention contribute- they're not getting a free ride from us that's for sure).
The way I see it, the more we provide these kids with easy access to everything, the more we're screwing them when they're adults. Not to mention us when we're elders since we most likely won't have social security, and I would bet there could be quite a few of us that may just in fact have to rely on our children, well, not if they're used to not having to wait to get a drink of water.
Not when they're used to not having to rush out and find a job after college because the health benefits are now up with mom and dad's PPO, not when they aren't taught to be responsible for themselves by not eating things that they shouldn't, not smoking things that they shouldn't, not walking into a house full of dogs when they are fully aware that their eyes will water, their throat will be scratchy and they'll need a shot later on that evening in the ER.
They must learn responsibility now. It's not my job to make sure that the child next door avoids peanuts. It's the parents job to teach the importance of this scary allergy. It's the child's job to be aware of it. After all, we do tell our children not to take candy from strangers, right? In Jackson's school one of the main rules in lunch hour is absolutely no sharing. Shouldn't that be enough?
No, of course not! Instead the school is green without peanuts and tree nuts and children aren't learning about responsibility and patience. Should they ever question the definition, I'm certain the teachers will advise them to google it.
It scares me.
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I have so much more to chat about in regards to the allergy thing, but I am exhausted. It's been a long week. Worth it, but long. You see, my parents are finally taking a vacation with just themselves. After 35 years of marriage, this is the second time that they've gone somewhere by themselves for an actual vacation (because in the past it's been vacations with other people, or just the two of them for weddings out of town, or many many football games--story for another day---). The first time that they went on a vacation for 7plus days just the two of them for "no reason? For their honeymoon. So, the point is, they're in San Francisco and have been since Sunday. I have been running my dad's company remotely by being their "answering service, scheduler, 24/7 on call broad, minimal payroll, scheduling, emergency calls, data entry, accounts payable yadah yadah." I am happy to do it and so glad that my parents can finally get away-not to mention be able to mind you, but it has been exhausting. So as much as I'd love to delve further into my thoughts on peanut allergies and other kinds of allergies that hang out within the school walls, I am too bushwhacked. Just remember, it doesn't mean I don't feel for the children that do have them, I just think that the school needs to scale back on instant gratification and encourage more self responsibility from their students.And I'm PMS'ing.