"God took the strength of a mountain,
The majesty of a tree,
The warmth of a summer sun,
The calm of a quiet sea,
The generous soul of nature,
The comforting arm of night,
The wisdom of the ages,
The power of the eagle's flight,
The joy of a morning in spring,
The faith of a mustard seed,
The patience of eternity,
The depth of a family need.
Then God combined these qualities.
When there was nothing more to add,
He knew His masterpiece was complete,And so, He called it ... "DAD!"(unknown)
As I sit at my desk thinking of what it takes to be a good or a great DAD, I find myself reverting back to my childhood looking for the answers. All I find are memories of my mother and how she played that role after my father had left us when I was five.
How does one become a good or great Dad when there was no one there to teach them the art of fatherhood through their entire life? I often find myself sitting, playing or listening to my three beautiful boys and all I can think about is how terrible of a father I am.
I get frustrated, I yell and the whole time I am doing this all I can think about is my kids hating me. It is awful to think to ones self that they are a horrible parent. It makes me want to crawl out of my skin and look that terrible father in the eye and tell him what a lousy job he is doing.
There are things that I do really well as a father and I know that; however, I just can’t get past my fears and insecurities. I want to be a great father and I want my kids to look up to me. The problem is I don’t know how to do that.
I was never taught, I never had a father to show me the ropes, give me so valuable life lessons that I can pass on to my boys. It is a feeling of complete emptiness. I often sit on my bed or on the couch and it might seem like I am watching TV or sleeping but I am actually crying my heart out inside. How do I get past this?
I am lucky to have a wonderful, caring, loving amazing wife who helps me out when I am down and who often gives me advice on what I should or should not do when it comes to the boys. I would be lost with out her. I guess one thing that I can do to turn the tides is follow this quote and hope everything else falls into place.
"The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother."
Crusty, Thanks for allowing me the opportunity to be a guest on your incredible site.
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No, thank YOU, guest speaker, for showing all us moms out there that dads are just as insecure about their parenting skills (even if they don't want to sit down with us and have a therapy session about it) as us. You are a terrific, loving, doting dad, and I'm glad that your boys have you.
They (your sons) and your wife are very very lucky to have someone so caring in their lives.
Ani Le Dodi V'Dodi Li-anf